Anger another taboo in teens life
Why Anger is a Taboo Word for a Parent of a teen
If you are a parent who tends to get angry on your teen once too often, here is a sign of caution and 3 good reasons why this behavior is perhaps never going to work out things between you and your child: –
If you are an angry Dad/ Mom, in most likelihood you have been displaying anger even when your child was smaller. In such a case, your teenage son/daughter is already trying to ape your anger thinking its probably to coolest thing to do (he/ she is merely role playing an adult, and who else can be a better example than you!!). If you or other members of your family scream, hit each other, or throw things, your teen will naturally assume that these are appropriate ways to express his or her anger as well.
Teens differ from adults in their ability to read and understand emotions in the faces of others. Adults use the prefrontal cortex to read emotional cues, but teenagers rely on the amygdala, the part of the brain responsible for emotional reactions. In research, teens often misread facial expressions; when shown pictures of adult faces expressing different emotions, teens most often interpreted them as being angry. And if that’s when you are not angry, imagine their reactions when you actually are!! They are probably shitting in their pants but will cover it up by doing things like being away from home for long times or shouting back at you.Pimples, change in appearance, peer pressure, hormonal changes – all of these put together are enough pain for the teenager child to cope up with. The last thing a teen needs is a confused angry parent who blows his fuze on an incident or a situation that to him/her is perfectly normal.
It may seem hard to believe—given your child’s indifference towards you—but teens still crave love, approval, and acceptance from their parents. That means you probably have a lot more influence over your teen than you think. And displaying negative emotions like anger are surely the fastest way of distancing yourself from your child at a time when he/she needs you the most. For the teen, your anger means that you are not willing to accept something in him which he is dealing with, but the same will develop a rebel in him and make him do the exact opposite of what you expect from him.